Fashion & Beauty

Separation Anxiety

February 14, 2017



THE WORLD is turning upside down, and there are so many reasons to reach for Xanax that sometimes it’s a good thing to sweat the small stuff.

Consider this then: A friend of mine in New York has a dilemma—with her hairdresser. She has been going to the same salon for color for 10 years and has become friendly with the colorist during that time. She also has had her hair cut at the salon with one of their stylists (with whom she was less friendly and had only seen for a year or so).  So, when her cousin raved about a stylist at another salon, she decided it was worth giving someone else a try. Her haircut was superb.  He also happens to color hair and mentioned to her that he uses a new, less harmful coloring process. In the past few weeks, her colorist has moved to a different salon, so my friend is deciding whether this leaves her an opening to also go to this new guy for color.

But her “old” colorist from the original salon recently called to remind her that she had moved to a different salon and hoped to see her soon. Now, she’s conflicted about what to do. Does she tell the colorist she has been seeing for 10 years that she has decided to try someone new? She doesn’t want to just ghost her.  And then if she doesn’t like the new colorist’s job on her hair, does she go back to the old?

Sound familiar? Have you cut the cord with your stylist or colorist lately? How did you handle the switch? We’d love to hear from you about your experience. E-mail us or comment below.

12 thoughts on “Separation Anxiety

  1. Kathy Legg says:

    I’ve been seeing the same colorist and stylist for a million years and they both (Sonnia Aranibar and Jean Luc Vivier at Salon L’eau) are the best! However, occasionally I’ve been unfaithful and dabbled with others, but I always come back to them. I think they pretend not to notice. We don’t talk about it. Except for the time I tried highlights with someone else and came away looking like a leopard. I went to Sonnia and came clean. Don’t know how she kept a straight face because I looked truly ridiculous. But she not only fixed me, she forgave me. I’m positive that after I left she was rolling on the floor laughing.

  2. Tina says:

    Turguy and his nephew Onder at Georgetown Salon are the BEST!

  3. Stephanie Cavanaugh says:

    I do it myself, and if the back is crooked (if, ha) I adjust my stance. I probably should break up with me but a) I get inspired at the oddest hours, and b) I can’t sit still long enough to have someone else do it.

  4. Barbara Goldman says:

    So, once I find a good one, I stay there. I have two favorites: one in DC and one in NYC. Been going there for many years! I love one for cut and color and another for the cut. In fact, I’ve been going to the one in NYC for well over 18 years

  5. Bonnie Kogod says:

    Would never leave my hairdresser, Isabelle (Izzy) Goetz. Her haircuts are art!

  6. Elizabeth Wydra says:

    I would never break up w my stylist!! I’ve been w Murat Franco through 2 salons–he is THE MASTER of the perfect blonde

  7. jacqui michel says:

    I love Turgay Yavuz!!! He’s THE BEST!

    1. Janet Kelly says:

      where is Turgay Yavuz? Couldn’t find when I searched.

  8. nancy gold says:

    I did about a year and a half ago. My stylists kept having babies and moving, even though I had been with the same salon for probably decades. Now I have someone who I am just following around from salon to salon. She’s great! And really knows how to make long hair move when she cuts it or I just get a blow-out. I gave up on color nearly a year ago, and I’m not unhappy with the results!

  9. Amy Schaeffer says:

    No, I LOVE my hairdresser – Scylla Stanton. She is also hairdresser to my mom, sister, sister-in-law, and multitudes of friends cause she’s just that good!

  10. Diana Bulger says:

    Only when they can’t seem to fit me in for an appointment after a few attempts.

  11. Bonnie Casper says:

    Janet Bennett Kelly – as you know I have left hairdressers and it is traumatic. I am a happy camper now with Ury.

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