Fall into fall with Cos basics. From left to right, a luxe cashmere turtleneck, pleated barrel-leg trousers and a lush green midi shirt dress.

By Janet Kelly

COS (an abbreviation for “collection of style”) wants dibs on your closet. The 15-year-old, London-based fashion retailer is H&M’s higher-end brand for minimalist women’s (and men’s) clothing. Founded in 2007, the label is known for its made-to-last, elevated everyday items. COS’s bread and butter pieces are separates that lean to modern, oversized silhouettes. Although a couple of colors—turquoise and yellow, for example—popped up in its fall 2023 collection, the line mostly adheres to its wheelhouse of crisp neutrals for its suits, textured knits and cozy coats.

It’s a fine place to find fall wardrobe essentials at mostly reasonable prices. Here are our faves:

In a blend of beige and off-white, COS’s wool jacket ($250, also available in black) is made with a loop knitting technique that gives this chic piece its textural look and feel.

COS veers from its usual neutrals with this funnel-neck mohair-and-merino blend tunic-style sweater (it also comes in light turquoise). File it under “dopamine dressing” and wear either as a dress or a sweater depending on your mood. It sells for $225.

For a more subtle take on the season’s Western trend, try these knee-high cowboy boots with pointed toes and stacked heels (1.57 inches), sleek enough to work with most items in your wardrobe. Padded insoles cushion feet, while rubber soles provide traction. They sell for $390.

If you haven’t already swapped your summertime straw, opt for a fall that’s fluffy and puffy with this pillowy leather quilted micro bag (14x17x.6.5cm) for $225. Freshen up black with this mood-boosting turquoise color. It also comes in a cotton fabric in lilac for $45.

Consider a barrel leg this season for your pants. Cut to accommodate wider hips and thighs, they’re tapered and cropped at the hem to create a structured shape. Also available in navy, these wool trousers have front pleats that to flatter curvier figures and won’t overwhelm shorter frames. They sell for $175.

Also trending this season are pants that flare at the hems, such as this wool pair in a navy pinstripe. They sell for $175.

Make a suit out of it by pairing the pants above with this coordinating oversize, doubled-breasted, lined wool blazer. Scrunch up the sleeves effortlessly because of elastic inserts. This style is almost sold out, though. Here’s a similar jacket.

With ruffles at the neck and on the cuffs, this ivory silk blouse can be tucked into pants or worn loose (it has a curved hem).  You choose. It sells for $225.

Neutral hues, such as this dark gray, are COS’s wheelhouse. The color also happens to be a fashion favorite this season, so stay cozy cocooning this winter in this all-cashmere, high turtleneck (it also comes in black). Pair with pale-hued jeans or contrast textures with the label’s black zip-up leather skirt. The sweater sells for $350.

Love the forest green color on Cos’s take on the classic shirt dress. With its fine-wale corduroy fabric and relaxed fit, I can imagine wearing this midi on repeat—with boots. Side pockets seal the deal; style points for rolling up the sleeves and leaving the top few buttons open. Also available in black, it sells for $135.

Like J. Crew has its Collection, COS has its limited capsule dubbed Atelier. Among its offerings is this voluminous trench coat with wide collar, a generous hood and flared sleeves. It’s made from a lightweight ripstop fabric and sells for $225. Note: the site says it’s unadorned with fastenings, which translates into you have to supply your own closure.

A shearling coat, shown on the COS fall 2023 runway during New York Fashion Week.

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Think feminine for fall with, from left to right, Zara’s fitted knit jacket, bow-tie blouse and whimsical cardigan.

By Janet Kelly

GREETINGS. We’re back with our second iteration of our occasional feature, Through the Racks. This week we take a deep dive into the chock-a-block closets of fashion chain Zara and its less trend-driven sibling Massimo Dutti, both owned by Spain-based behemoth Inditex. (By the way, just last week Meghan Markle—aka Duchess of Sussex—who regularly turns heads with her mix of high-end and mass-market brands, wore an ecru short denim jumpsuit from Zara under an oversize white blazer, along with spendy Saint Laurent sandals in black.)

Heading into fall, here are our picks among Zara’s and Massimo Dutti’s many must-have offerings, including cozy cardigans, cool jackets and oh-so shiny tops.

Zara’s washed gray denim jacket with metal studs looks roomy enough to layer over a hoodie or to extend the wearability of a spring/summer dress. It sells for $69.90.

For a svelte look day or night, this charcoal gray all-wool knit sweater, a cross between a cardigan and a jacket, elegantly nips in the waist for a flattering, fitted silhouette. Wear with a coordinating midi skirt—pencil or flare. It’s $109 at Zara.

I’m a fan of corduroy for fall, and what would feel cozier than this oversize fine-wale shirt in luscious forest green? Also available in sand and pink, it sells for $35.90 at Zara.

As sneakers have become an essential in our wardrobes, they’ve also gotten a lot pricier. When you’re hankering for a sleek sneaker and prefer not to pay $100-plus, Zara’s Athletic leather shoe comes in this turquoise hue, as well as orange, taupe and blue for $69.90.

Layer Zara’s chunky embroidered cardigan with fun fringe accents over T-shirts and/or turtlenecks, with jeans or skirts or anytime you’re in the mood for a pop of pink. It sells for $45.90.

I know it’s waay to early but thinking ahead a bit, a satiny wide-leg pant could go a long way in giving you options for what to wear for the holidays. Zara’s satin-effect pants sell for  $49.90, and the matching shirt is $45.90.

Another thought for November and December doings: Dress up your jeans or a pair of navy or black pants with Zara’s sparkly metallic knit vest. It sells for $49.90.

Holiday or not, this metallic knit cardigan ($47.90) from Zara is that versatile something that spans the seasons. It adds gleam to everyday jeans and will look terrific with white linen pants when warm weather rolls around again.

How sweet it is. Zara’s bow-collar shirt with pearl buttons down the front sells for $45.90. Wear it out to dinner under a blazer, peeking out from a V-neck sweater or just by its lonesome to show off those pretty sleeves.

Made from sheepskin leather, these khaki slim-fitting chino trousers from Massimo Dutti are appointed with two side pockets and a waistband with belt loops. Amortize the $449 price tag by wearing them on repeat.

Enough with the black. When winter comes, think of brightening it up with a slate blue, wool-blend trench-coat style ($449) from Massimo Dutti.

If you were smitten as I was by Prada’s gorgeous rosette appliqué skirts and the coordinating “origami” shoes on the label’s fall 2023 runway, here’s a great knockoff of the latter for $49.90 at Zara.

Camel-colored coats and jackets have made a comeback this fall. Not only will this smart-looking wool-blend jacket ($259) go divinely with all the black in your wardrobe, you can also pair it with Massimo Dutti’s midi skirt and mock turtleneck vest.

One could do worse than to channel Princess Diana, who made sailor necklines popular in the ‘80s. The nautical fashion dates back to the middle of the 19^th century, but it still looks good today on this wool-and-cashmere blend cardigan from Massimo Dutti. It sells for $129 and also comes in a creamy white.

Made of a recycled acrylic, wool and alpaca blend, Massimo Dutti’s boucle knit cardi ($229) comes in this taupe hue as well as black, can morph from casual to dressed-up, depending on what you pair it with and your accessories. Besides, it’s a cozy option to wear on a cool day.

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From left to right, a wear-now army-green jacket, a pleated skirt and shirt jacket both in faux leather and wide-leg denim trousers, all from J. Crew. 

By Janet Kelly

FALL IS my favorite season—cooler temps and blazing color, yes. But above all, it’s when fashion labels, big and small, expensive, not so expensive and everything in between, roll out their latest and greatest clothing and accessories. And just when you’re thinking cold weather, models in New York, London, Milan and Paris are striding down runways previewing what’s to come for spring 2024. (More on that later.)

Getting back to fall, for the next month or so, we’ll be browsing the aisles of some of fashion’s biggest brands—Zara, Everlane, Cos, and J. Crew, to name a few—guiding you with our thoughts on their best offerings.

We kick off our “Through the Racks” column with J. Crew:

In J. Crew’s “Icons Only” campaign, which celebrates the label’s 40^th anniversary with their most memorable past pieces, model Lauren Hutton wears this 1989 heritage anorak. All cotton, lined, with a kangaroo pocket, plus a side zipper for easy on and off, it comes in a slew of colors and sells for $138. Perfectly practical for fall.

High-end lines used to market their less expensive clothing as a “secondary” or “diffusion” line. Now mid-price brand J. Crew is calling its higher price items “collection,” which includes this laminated linen blend (82% linen, 18% polyurethane) swingy trench coat that’s glossy on the outside, lined on the inside. A nod to the oldie-but-goodie slicker, the hooded coat hits right at the knee. It sells for $450.

How cute is this fringe-trim cropped jacket with snappy buttons? Wear right now with chinos; later, layer over a tissue-thin turtleneck and pair with bone or black corduroy pants. It is $138.

We wrote about loafers last week, but we somehow missed J. Crew’s lug-sole classic penny loafer. It comes in shiny leather colors—dark evening blue and silver —and also in suede— in cornflower blue and toffee. These sharp-looking shoes sell for $228.

Available in olive (above), as well as sand, this chino jacket with gold-crest buttons down the front combines the polish of a blazer with the comfort of an oversized fit. It’s the perfect weight for transitioning to fall and is now selling for $114.50, reduced from $158.

Vests are having their moment in the style spotlight. As the temperatures dip, add a turtleneck underneath this fitted vest in crepe (available in navy, black and white) or pair with a matching blazer and pants for a three-piece suit. It sells for $89.50.

Reminiscent of the shapes of way pricier pieces, this carryall in suede with leather handles and a tie closure is roomy enough to fit a laptop and polished enough to take anywhere. In addition to the chocolate-brown hue, it also comes in midnight blue, selling for $198.

Faux leather keeps looking better to me, and this high-rise pant, slim through the hips and thighs and roomier around the ankles, will play well with everything.  Available in coffee and black for $158.

Pleated skirts are a timeless style, and one in faux leather, such as this midi ($228), will be wearable from fall through early spring. It looks terrific with a matching shirt jacket for $198.

Just last week, my pal Nancy tried on these “denim trousers” (99% cotton, 1% Spandex) at a J. Crew store in Annapolis. With their high waist, balanced by a wide leg and long length, they flattered her very cute figure. Available in three different washes for $158, wear them with pointy kitten heels or flats.

So many brands are currently pushing their version of a classic striped sweater. J. Crew’s (in cashmere) nicely tweaks the formula with pointelle stitching all over and oversized, roll-able cuffs. It sells for $248.

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Beau, adorable grandchild and author on a ferris wheel. 

By Grace Cooper

DO YOU ever have one of those nagging feelings that things have been going too smoothly lately? In mid-August, my beau and I traveled to visit my son and his bride in the college town where they live and work. As an added bonus, her lovely parents extended their visit to overlap with ours. We enjoyed fabulous dinners out and a fun bike ride organized by my boy, weaving our way through beautiful parks and countryside. The best was yet to come though when we attended a four-hour rock concert in which my son charmed a crowd of rowdy revelers with his magnificent singing voice. My beau couldn’t sit still, moving about the crowd taking photos and videos of the boys in the band, as if he were the proud parent groupie. I loved him more for the sincere way in which he bragged about my son for days afterward. 

We returned home for a few days before flying off to the Southern town where my daughter, son-in-law and two adorable grandchildren moved last winter. Mind you, the South in August is uncomfortable, to say the least. The day prior to our arrival had been marked by a violent storm that toppled trees and brought down power lines. My daughter reassured us by phone on the Uber drive to her home that despite this post- apocalyptic scene, her lights were on and A/C functioning. Yet something in her voice—her distinctly raspy voice—suggested there was trouble brewing. 

Anyway, our plans for the week were to drive to the beach house she’d rented, just a few hours away. We were excited at the thought of happy children, crashing surf and ocean breezes. However, when my girl returned from her work in the hospital wearing a mask and keeping me at arms length, she announced she needed to test for Covid. Yes, she was positive, feverish, coughing and miserable. 

You know that feeling we all had during the height of the pandemic when the thought of dying of C0vid was a daily occurrence? Well this time I was dying to go to the beach instead. I tried to contain that thought as I ordered my daughter to bed and offered to fetch the children from daycare, with my beau in tow. 

Again, he cheerfully tugged the children’s wagon up the hill towards the little school, sweating, soaking his shirt that minutes earlier had been crisp and clean in their air-conditioned home. By the time I gained access into the locked fortress that was the daycare entrance, he was forced to wait outside because his name and photo weren’t pre-entered on the allowed “pick up list.” I glanced at him and took note of how he was looking at me in a way I might describe as cranky-in-progress. I would have hugged him but he was icky and sticky and on the other side of that door was A/C. 

First I dropped into my grandson’s classroom, only to find him engrossed in a puzzle. Rather than the typical wildly affectionate greeting from this adorable three-year-old, he shouted, “No, CeCe! I’m not ready to leave yet!’ That meant 15 more minutes to finish the puzzle, nibble his way through a large afternoon snack, hug his teacher, give high fives to classmates and insist that he pack his own backpack for the ride home. 

Finally we were on our way to fetch his baby sister in the infant room. She fortunately greeted me with a little leap into my arms but with the distinct aroma of a poopy diaper. I debated changing her, but the thought of my patient beau suffering heat stroke made me change my mind. Tugging the toddler towards the door, while balancing Miss Poopy Pants delicately on one hip, we finally spilled out into the peak heat of the sunny, sweltering afternoon. 

Beau now was thoroughly soaking wet and appeared to be much less happy to be included in this family scene than the one we’d just left. Fortunately, after strapping both of the smelly and cranky grandkids into the wagon, the walk home was downhill. Beau was quiet, but I hoped it was merely him trying to maintain stable vital signs as he tugged the wagon back to the house.

The next few hours were a blur as we fumbled our way through feeding both children and son-in-law scraps from their pre-vacation, largely emptied refrigerator. Then there were baths which are quite a production of water toys, bubbles, “soap paint” and hair-washing tears. Wet children are as slippery as little dolphins, and faster than I could dry them off, they were off and running naked through the upstairs. Finally wrestled into pj’s, my beau placated them with story-time books and even a song or two. They seemed to love this kindly virtual stranger. I blew him kisses of gratitude. 

Soon after as we fell exhausted into bed, it occurred to us both, counting virus incubation periods on our fingers, that we were too busy to get Covid. Our upcoming two weeks were filled with not only beach time, but a big party for our nearest and dearest we’d scheduled only two days after arriving back home. Then the next day he was headed out of town for a business meeting with clients he hoped to impress, rather than infect. And finally he was to fly down to see his son and pregnant daughter-in-law soon after. Uh oh, I thought. Nowhere in our chock-full schedule did we leave time for costume changes, let alone convalescence from a highly communicable virus. 

What to do but keep calm and carry on? And so we did what mutually supportive couples do . . .we decided to make the best of a bad situation . . .together.

I’m happy to report my girl rallied like a trooper the next day, and after packing two cars full of beach regalia, we enjoyed a spectacularly fun week with the babies and their parents. I loved the way my daughter and beau teased one another in a genuinely affectionate repartee. I was smitten by the way he entertained the babies on the beach, and I was grateful that his 73-year-old constitution was so strong. 

We stayed healthy. The party was a rousing success, and he visited my best friend and her husband in Baltimore on the way to his work destination. Now only two more days and he will depart for a visit with the ones he loves most . . . until the moment his own little baby angel, blessed with a sprinkling of his DNA, makes his grand debut later this year. 

Life is wildly unpredictable but a wide open and loving heart is the glue that holds it all together, whatever rolls your way. And that is why this man is a keeper.

Grace Cooper (a nom de plume) left her long marriage a decade ago, and with it went all sense of her identity—but not for long. Now 67, she has begun chronicling her tales of looking for love in all the wrong places, and unexpectedly finding herself.

Clockwise, from left to right: Massimo Dutti’s creased patent loafers with horsebit detail ($169), a black suede slip-on with cheetah tassel ($140) from Birdies, a leather mule with padded insole and rubber outsole ($140) and an out-of-the-ordinary herringbone print ($169) with a charcoal sole from Rothy’s. 

By Janet Kelly

MOST of us are not going back to school; many of us not back to an office. But when my virtual calendar turns to September, something in my hard drive clicks, reminding me to change my footwear. My steadfast shoe has always been a loafer but the mainstay penny loafer we wore in elementary school and beyond—although it’s still around albeit tweaked—has evolved into a variety of styles and design details—chunky lug soles, platforms, backless silhouettes, minimalist shapes, all updated in different colors, finishes and materials. Moreover, they offer the comfort we’ve come to appreciate over the last few years plus they work with just about everything, from shortish shifts to midi skirts to maxi dresses. Some of our favorite looks below:

London-based Dear Frances works with a team of artisan shoemakers in Italy who use high-quality, sustainable materials to produce their luxe footwear. This Joss loafer is made in super-soft suede with a hand-stitched upper and finished with leather welts and lightweight rubber soles. Also available in a lush green, they sell for $550.

Refresh your back-to-school look with Schutz‘s Rhino loafer in a military green hue that’s just as much a neutral as the classic brown or black. It sells for $178 at Anthropologie.

Go really old-school in moka calf loafers from Berlin-based footwear company Aeyde. The style is based on a 1960s silhouette discovered in the archives of the label’s Italy-based factory. Also available in black and in patent leather, they sell for $395.

Metallics in fashion are nothing new, but they’ve made a sparkly comeback this spring that continues strong for fall. Made in durable leather, Tory Burch‘s classic loafer ($358) with scalloped edges will light up simple skirts, jeans and cozy knits.

Even an old-school company can change its tune to playful. Take this pair of weejuns in black and white (also available in a spruce green), designed with a dainty grosgrain bow ornament. Take the seriousness out of a suit with this pair that sells for $175 at G.H. Bass.

Vertically challenged? Step into these Suzanne Rae black velvet platform loafers with grosgrain trim and bow and a 3-inch-high heel. They’re on final sale at Garmentory for $177.23, reduced from $695.

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A burnt-orange, double-breasted corduroy jacket from Ines de la Fressange’s fall/winter 2023 collection for Uniqlo and a turtleneck sweater and color-block, knife-pleated skirt from Uniqlo: C–the retailer’s latest line–with Clare Waight Keller.

By Janet Kelly

UNIQLO began partnering with high-fashion designers for special labels way back in 2005. The concept took off with its popular +J collection with Jil Sander in 2010, which returned for two more rounds in 2020 and 2021. In between were lines with the likes of Marni, Lemaire and J. W. Anderson. Fashion icon Ines de la Fressange began showing her designs for Uniqlo in 2013. The collaboration is still going strong today.

The chain’s latest coup is a collab with Clare Waight Keller of Chloe and Givenchy fame (and designer of Megan Markle’s wedding dress), due to debut in its 1,500 stores worldwide and on its e-commerce site September 15. Dubbed Uniqlo: C, the new line will feature 34 pieces: puff jackets, pleated skirts, corduroy pants and accessories, including loafers and boots. The trick, according to Waight Keller, was combining comfort with style, quality and price for everyday dressing. By the looks of the pieces below, we think she’s nailed it. Psst: If the reaction to Uniqlo: C is anything like the Jil Sander blockbuster, expect the offerings to go quickly. Forewarned is forearmed.

One of the standout looks of her fall collaboration with Uniqlo is Clare Waight Keller’s classic trench coat in a water-resistant gabardine twill with contrast check lining that she pairs with a quilted jacket, a pink cashmere sleeveless sweater, peachy pink wide-wale cords, brown loafers and a spiffy baseball cap.

This jaunty plaid oversize coat, as with all padded coats and jackets in the Uniqlo: C collection, comes with a drawstring waist to give it shape. It’s perfectly coordinated with wide corduroy pants the same color as the coat’s lining and a gray half-zip wool sweater that nods to one of the colors in the coat. Everything goes with everything, says Waight Keller.

In this sunny look, Waight Keller debunks the notion that winter colors must be dark. She masterfully coordinates a double-face wrap coat with a wrinkle-proof maxi pleated skirt, light down jacket, faux leather round shoulder bag and lug-soled Chelsea lace-up boots.

Inès de la Fressange’s 2023 fall/winter collection for Uniqlo offers plenty of plaid and Fair Isle patterns in its signature relaxed cuts. And there are suits for work/weekends—such as this tweed jacket ($129.90) with matching pleated wide pants ($79.90), paired with a pin tuck blouse ($49.90), ribbed crewneck sweater ($49.90) and studded belt ($39.90).

Ease into fall with de la Fressange’s navy wool-blend, unlined tweed jacket ($129.90), off-white pointelle sweater vest, which also comes in dark gray and navy for $39.90; and corduroy tapered ankle pants (also available in navy and brown) for $59.90.

Should you want to update your denim wardrobe this fall, don’t discount these low-waist, boyfriend (slightly baggy) jeans. In addition to the blue shown above, they’re also available in navy, beige and dark gray for a wallet-friendly $49.90.

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Two cardigans and a gauze blouse from Eileen Fisher on sale now.

By Janet Kelly

MANY of you are fans of Eileen Fisher fashion because you love the ease of the label’s loose, monochromatic and understated clothing. For those who appreciate the no-muss, no-fuss looks but would love lower price points, an end-of-the-season sale is happening right now, with up to 60 percent off original prices. The best deals tend to be on wear-them-now tops, pants and dresses in cotton and linen. Popular items, such as wide-leg ponte pants, are only available in limited sizes. That said, we found two cardigans, a pair of ballet flats, suede boots and a corduroy jacket (among other pieces) that would smoothly transit from now to cooler temps:

An easygoing, ribbed, linen knit cardigan in khaki (it’s also available in charcoal) that looks as perfect paired with all white as it would with black or navy. The price on this long (rear-end covering) cardi is reduced from $278 to $131.40.

Sleek and simple with a square toe, EF’s Selle Suede Ballet Flat revives the classic in black, “cassis” and “nocturne.” The latter two colors are selling for $77.40, a whopping discount from the original $210. My best bet is the burgundy— a fresh take on an old standby.

We’ve showed you this soft, drapey, organic cotton gauze shirt before. But now, in the waning days of August, the breezy mandarin collar blouse is discounted from its original $138 to $71.40 ( in black or white). Also available from Bloomingdale’s in white for $96.60. It’s still $138 in “nocturne” on the Eileen Fisher site.

Made from Tencel Lyocell, this  fluid tank dress with a slightly tiered silhouette—thanks to a shirred bottom panel—comes in “picante” or black for $101.40, down from $198. Extend its wearability by layering it over a cotton T-shirt or a lightweight knit top.

This zippered Anja Suede Bootie with an almond toe and block heel will look great with a pleated midi skirt and oversized sweater come fall. It’s reduced in price from $275 to $137.40 (in limited sizes).

Made from organic linen in a mini-check print, this tapered, ankle-length pant with front pleats is available in black, loden and gray and is reduced from $178 to $83.40.

Give your denim jacket a rest and consider this classic patch pocket jacket in creamy-textured, coffee-colored corduroy. Wear for cool, late-summer or early fall evenings. Layer it under a trench or heavier coat when the weather turns chilly. It’s selling for $113.40, reduced from $218.

Eileen Fisher ‘s Peruvian cotton V-Neck Boyfriend Cardigan is the kind of relaxed-fitting wardrobe staple you’ll wear over and over again—with a dress or jeans and a T-shirt. It’s now $199 at Garnet Hill, reduced from $268.

If you prefer more structured pants, take a look at the Theory site—the brand is also having a sale during these final days of August. Cut from a wrinkle-resistant, all-seasons crêpe fabric with a softly draped fit, these high-waist, wide-leg pants are on sale for $114, down from $285.

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By Janet Kelly

EVEN THOUGH it’s still very much summer, we’re all programmed to think what’s ahead. Caught between this season and the next, here’s a somewhat random list of what’s on my radar this week:

If your jean supply, like mine, is due for a refresh, I’m considering these three: Ayr’s new Frenchie has a mid-rise, a straight leg with a slight crop and a relaxed fit, all things that appeal to me in an everyday jean. It also comes in three washes—a medium blue (see above), a creamy off-white and a rich black. A similar option and way less pricey is Uniqlo’s ankle-length, boyfriend tapered jeans. I also have my eye on a pair of high-rise, flared jeans from Gap, which I like for its figure-flattering silhouette.

Banana Republic’s denim midi skirt ($160) would be an excellent addition to a wardrobe that works for summer but also can move smoothly into fall, depending on choice of footwear and tops. I much prefer this length to the ubiquitous maxi that’s difficult to wear for most of us mortals. Fitted through the waist and hips, the A-line skirt gently flares from hip to hem.

I’ve squeezed out the last few drops of Drunk Elephant’s bronzy color wash, but I’m inclined to purchase another. Using self-tanner on my face results in an unattractive blotchy look, but adding just a smidgen of these “sunshine drops” (with hydrating oils) to a moisturizer or foundation gives my pallor a boost of subtle color. It sells for $38 at Sephora.

I’m a sucker for Printfresh’s happy patterns and colors. I’m adding this quilted, oversized, puppy-printed pouch (5.5 inches wide-by 10.5 inches long-by 7 inches high) and its colorfully striped companion (4.5 inches wide-by-8 inches long-by 5.5 inches high) to my holiday gift ideas list for my granddaughters, my pet-loving friends and for little old me. I’d use them for tools like eyelash curler and other beauty supplies, but they’re also good sizes for packing lingerie in a suitcase or keeping underwear organized in drawers at home. The pair sells for $88 and is available in three other prints.

It may be based in Irvine, California, but the OluKai company’s footwear is inspired by Hawaii, the ocean and “the feeling of bare feet in wet sand.” Ahhh. Made of supple leather, these strappy Waiau sandals (available in silver and gold, too) comfort and support feet with contoured footbeds. They sell for $120 at Nordstrom.  (Want to help recovery efforts in Maui? Donate to OluKai’s tax-exempt foundation, Ama OluKai.)

I love my white sneakers, but for something a bit more formal for fall, think Audrey in Loeffler Randall’s Leonie ballerinas. Made of soft lamb leather with a padded footbed and Mary Jane strap, they’re also available in pink and tan. They sell for $250 at Tuckernuck. Something less expensive? Zara’s square toe bow-tie ballet flats are $49.90.

What would Jane Birkin have thought about Dragon Diffusion’s Grace small basket? For one thing, this one is far sturdier, handwoven from leather instead of wicker. For another, its interior (34cm width-by-23cm height-by 16cm depth) would probably have more comfortably accommodated her essentials, maybe a drink and book as well.  A hand-sewn St. Christopher medal inside the bag promises to help traveler’s travails. In today’s environment of canceled flights, horrid weather, etc., who couldn’t use that? Almost sold out on multiple sites in this dark green but available in caramel for $365, in navy for $376 and in black for $358 on Farfetch.

Clare V’s cotton poplin Phoebe blouse is on the spendy side ($245) for sure, but that lips print on a blush-color background is so darn cheery, it’s irresistible. I’d amortize the cost by wearing it as much as possible all fall and winter—with jeans and a blazer.

Even if my sandal season will be over in a couple of months, these L.L. Bean Maine Isle sandals are too adorable not to put in my shopping cart so I can wear them in the waning days of this summer and all summer 2024. They sell for $19.99 at Zappos.

They say you can’t go back to what you once wore. Ha! Cristalle by Chanel was a longtime favorite fragrance of mine, and then, just like that, a few years ago, it was no longer available. Now, just as mysteriously, it’s back—in an eau de toilette concentrée spray (the eau de toilette for $140 is already sold out). It’s technically a floral scent with notes of magnolia, but citrus and jasmine cut the sweetness for a fresh, green fragrance that’s perfect for summer—or for me, anytime of year. It sells for $165 at Chanel.

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Rhea Perlman (Ruth Handler) and Margot Robbie (Barbie) /photo courtesy of Warner Bros.

By Janet Kelly

“WE mothers stand still, so our daughters can look back to see how far they’ve come,” Rhea Perlman explains to Margot Robbie in one of the final scenes of Barbie. Perlman’s words resonated, unleashing a flood of tears.

Let me offer some background in my family drama to explain:

I suspect my brother’s mental illness went unrecognized in childhood (I remember him as a cute kid who liked to laugh and was also as a pain-in-the-neck little brother whom my mother wanted me to help do his homework). He did all right in college, even started a small business on campus. When he joined the family biz, though, things began to unravel. He threatened to quit his job, did quit a few times and then asked to be taken back too many times to count, causing my parents undeserved misery along with significant pressure from other, not-so-compassionate relatives in the business.

My mother’s worries about my brother were our most frequent and fraught topic of conversation. But before that and in between times, my mom was my biggest fan, proud of my academic and career accomplishments.

I had a rocky first marriage and then lots of dates/relationships. She listened to my love woes and advised when she thought I was heading down the wrong road. A woman with an innate sense of style, she was my role model and arbiter of good taste, although she could be annoyingly critical and controlling: “You’re wearing that?” or “Did you get a haircut?” Most of all what I loved about her was her enthusiasm/passion for life—she was up for her latest bridge game, to see a new movie, go to the ballet, play a round of golf or go on a cruise in her mid-80s with her daughter and son-in-law. And I admired her compassion for other people. To help out her sister who was working in the jewelry business, she sold one of her most prized possessions so my aunt could get the commission.

When my mother later moved to Florida, as did my brother, during my visits there I noticed but failed to understand his increasingly erratic behavior—renting new, expensive cars and later defaulting on the leases and hopscotching to different houses/apartments when he found fault with one or the other. My pleas to him about respecting my aging mother and taking more responsibility for himself fell on deaf ears. When my mom died she left money for both my brother—for his care— and for me. I suggested he use his funds to find an assisted living facility, which he did, and he remains there today. But my other efforts to guide him, suggesting he use my financial planner and offering to help manage any legal matters were rebuffed. My brother effectively broke all ties with me.

That’s when my mother’s cautionary advice kicked in. Unlike other parents I’ve learned of who burdened their children with taking care of the family strays, my mother looked at me a few months before her death and said simply: “Your brother ruined my life; don’t let him ruin yours.”

It’s painful to think my brother and I have so little contact—a phone call on birthdays is the extent of it, and that he has no family around him, but I have to live with those consequences in order to carry on with my own life. My attempts to interfere in his are unwanted and backfire on me.

As I watched Rhea Perlman offer her loving gift to daughters everywhere, I thought of my mother and the gift she gave me. My tears were tears of melancholy, of missing her, but mostly tears of gratitude.

By Janet Kelly

SUNGLASSES qualify as a summertime staple, but their appeal as a necessary accessory lasts all year long. For one, they can mask eyes that have not had sufficient sleep that night or cover bloodshot ones suffering from a wee bit too much imbibing. But most importantly, shades protect the eyes and delicate skin around them from ultraviolet radiation, which can lead to cataract development and age-related macular degeneration. Most sunglasses today have that covered, but look for labels that specify 100% protection. Polarized lenses that filter and block some of the light from passing through the lenses, reducing glare and strain on the eyes is a nice feature, but will add to the cost.

Shape and size of sunnies tend to follow trends—this summer has come up with some unflattering ones, such as goggle-types that make you look as if you worked in a science lab and triangular shapes for which I don’t see the point. I’m a proponent of oversized sunglasses because they shade a larger area—eye crinkles (crow’s feet) and upper cheekbones.

A general rule of thumb is that a strong, distinct square frame works best for a round face, while a rounder frame complements an angular face. The best way to know, though, is try, try and try—either virtually (most brands offer that capability), or in a store. Department stores, such as Nordstrom, Neiman’s and Saks Fifth Avenue, sell designer glasses from Prada, Tom Ford, etc. See and Warby Parker have standalone stores throughout the country; Sunski has a list of stockists on its site, as does Le Specs. Privé Revaux sells at Kohl’s.

Whether the sun is shining brightly or it’s kind of cloudy, protect your eyes year-round. Here are 11 picks for both kinds of days—in three price ranges.

Under $100

In 2016, celebs Jamie Foxx, Hailee Steinfeld, and Ashley Benson wanted to know why well-designed and made glasses couldn’t be more affordable. To answer that, they founded Privé Revaux, such as these Belle Meade sunglasses with its geometric shape (for oval, round and triangular faces) and lovely lilac frames, balanced by an understated metal temple. The lenses are 100% UVA/UVB protected, polarized to cut down on glare and are impact-and-scratch-resistant. They sell for $39.95, which includes a foldable case. For 30% off, use code POOLSIDE.  The label also offers a collection of prescription styles.

Sunski’s popular Dipsea medium-size round frame (above in rust forest) gets its name from the company’s favorite San Francisco Bay Area hiking trail. The lenses are polarized, block 100% UVA/UVB rays and come with light, recycled frames. Available in nine other colorways, it sells for $58 without a case or cleaning cloth. However, Sunski offers a lifetime warranty, which covers broken frames but not scratched or damaged lenses. The brand doesn’t offer prescription lenses.

When Warby Parker started out in 2010, they had no stores, their glasses all sold for $95, you couldn’t get prescription lenses,  but you could pick five styles to try out for five days—for free. The last is still true, but now they have stores, most of their prices have risen and you can get a prescription eyeglass. These squarish Lottie sunnies in “green tea” crystal have scratch-resistant lenses that block all UV rays. Each pair comes with a frame case and lens cloth. WP offers a 30-day return or exchange policy, as well as a six-month, no-scratch guarantee for their lenses that are available in nonprescription, single-vision, progressive and readers.

Under $200-$225

A mix of traditional and contemporary, Ray Ban’s bright blue acetate, square lenses with a chevron pattern on the inside frame, are unfortunately out of stock at Eyebuy Direct. A more rectangular but similar style with a charming gingham pattern sells for $166.

Aperçu offers three essential (classic shapes) collections —round, square and cat eye—along with designer capsules. The bold, statement-y Le Rond in this polished green acetate with orange-hued lenses that are UVA/UVB protected. Also available in ivory, burgundy, blue, yellow, tortoise and black, they sell for $159. When asked whether Aperçu offered prescription-ready glasses, here’s what a customer service rep said via e -mail: “All our frames are RX-able but we do recommend checking with your local optician first as some high RX’s and progressives can be more challenging to cut and insert.” Good tip.

I love the look of aviators, especially this this Ray Ban RB3548N with hexagonal-shaped lenses and those extremely thin temples. (All Eyebuy Direct sunglasses come with UV protection.) Also available with green or brown tinted lenses, they sell from $217-$247 (depending on the tint) for non-prescription lenses.

$300 and more

Founded by Hyman Moscot who in 1899 began selling glasses from a pushcart on Orchard St in NYC, the Moscot company, which now has five stores in NYC and more than 20 around the world, is run by a fifth generation Moscot (Zach), a trained industrial designer who takes credit for this Grober Sun. In honey tortoise with UV-protected green lenses, it’s available in a range of sizes from 44 (narrow) to 52 (extra wide) and in crystal frames with denim lenses and also with navy frames and light blue lenses. It sells for $350.

Celine Eyewear’s sunglasses with oversized, round frames will particularly suit those with more angular face shapes. They’re fitted with UV-protective gradient brown lenses and the brand’s signature two-dot emblem at the arms. They sell for $380 at Net a Porter. 

Prada’s sleek, rectangular/cat eye sunglasses in crystal orange with dark gray tinted lenses will flatter oval and round faces  alike, while protecting eyes from UV rays. They sell for $517 at Shopbop. Psst: We found this great lookalike —with polarized lenses, too, on Amazon for $35.96.

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Lightweight fabrics and loose silhouettes for hot summer days.

By Janet Kelly

YOU’VE WATCHED the news—and felt it. From Phoenix to Pittsburgh, it’s hot all over the country—and the world. Unfortunately, unless the global community rallies to change the course of climate change, we’re cooked.

In the meantime, though, we need to dress for the weather we have. Conventional wisdom says that natural fabrics, such as lightweight cotton, linen and jersey, should be your go-tos in the heat. When it comes to silhouettes, the keyword  is breezy. Anything tight and/or clingy is just going to make you feel hotter. And don’t even think about jeans. Wide-leg, flowy pants; A-line skirts, roomy dresses and blouses are your hot-weather friends. Wearing light colors (think white, tan and khaki) that reflect the sun’s rays rather than absorb them (as dark colors can) also helps keep you cool.

And don’t forget a wide-brimmed sun hat. We like this one from Helen Kaminski and this one with sun protection from Solbari.

Below, our picks for what to wear when the Fahrenheit soars:

Keep it simple in Faherty’s sunny striped shirt dress with its classic silhouette in our favorite fabric—linen. You can accentuate the waist with a belt (note, it’s not included). However, a button detail in the back creates a subtle cinch for a flattering shape. It sells for $198.

White is always right for summer IMHO. Marché New York’s Issey dress in 100% breathable hemp (like linen but more durable) with a wide boat neck and multiple pleats has a generous fit. Cinch it in with the wrap belt, which can be worn at the waist or lower on the hips and is adjustable with buttons. It sells for $398.

A dusky cornflower midi skirt from Ninety Percent in viscose, a lightweight material that drapes well, features a generous side slit that lets in the breezes and reveals a glimpse of skin. Wear with a form-fitting stretchy top and ballet flats or chunky sandals. It sells for $265 at Net a Porter.

Masterful drapery, precision cut-out dresses, deconstructed looks and innovative ways with tie fastenings has built Australian designer Christopher Esber a global reputation and fan base. He also is known for monochromatic palettes like these burnt orange cotton pants  (above), paired with a bralette and striped shirt. The pull-on, easy-fitting trousers are selling for $300, down from $750 at Moda Operandi.

An Australian fashion brand owned and run by women, Dissh “unravels designer luxury into refined yet easy-to-wear pieces that reflect our roots in the sunshine state of Australia.” This viscose-blend, ribbed-knit sleeveless dress ($149) with a gentle A-line hem will usher in the breezes. Come cooler temps, throw a jacket over it.

Window shopping in Dublin a few weeks ago, my eagle-eyed friend spotted The White Company ( a store I had never heard of. With humble beginnings in the U.K., it’s now a global company with 60 stores around the world, including one in NYC. Founder Chrissie Rucker explained: “Patterns and colors come and go, but white never dates. I love the perfect simplicity and versatility of white. It’s classic, yet modern and, just like a little black dress, it’s wonderfully timeless, too. Whoever we are, whatever our style is, white always works in some way …” Agreed. This pleated A-line skirt with delicate crinkle pleats is fully lined, and we love its swish. It’s marked down to $118.90 from $169.

I have been seeing Prada’s printed silk satin dress for months now but at a spendy $4,600, I’d prefer to pay my mortgage. But listen up, Prada-philes, a satiny tie-dye dress in a flowy viscose that looks a lot like the popular Prada one is selling for a lot less—$199—at Massimo Dutti.

Toogood’s full-length Shrimper cotton dress looks as if it were made for sticky summer days. Keep the look loose and relaxed or use the front and back ties for a more fitted look. It sells for $652, reduced from $1,043, at Farfetch.

When the thought of anything clingy makes you shudder, pull on these easygoing wide-leg trousers with a pleated front. We love the chambray color sans the hot denim fabric. Tank tops look great with it, but a flowy blouse with a boxy fit would keep you cooler. The pants sell for $124 at Splendid.

The West-Coast-meets-the-Mediterranean vibe in Sundry’s designs is a result of the company’s founder growing up in Aix-en-Provence and then  settling in Venice, California. This gauze button-up ($148) will keep you cool while you look neat and tailored.

A combination of day dress and coverup, Tuckernuck’s beachy caftan ($148) is cut from lightweight cotton voile with fluttery sleeves and a tiered skirt. Pair it with sandals and a wide-brim sun hat for everyday errands or slip over your swimsuit as you head for the pool or beach.

A fresh blue-and-cream print is the primary eye-catcher on Ulla Johnson’s cotton jersey midi dress. But the high neckline, gathered waistband and the satisfyingly swishy skirt add to the list of things to like/love about this dress, which is currently selling for $220, down from $550 at Moda Operandi.

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By Janet Kelly

THOSE WHO had early access (store cardholders) to the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale scored some great deals, but there are still plenty of discounts to be had during the chain’s annual event, which opens to the public today, July 17, and continues through August 6. Thousands of products, including designer coats, jeans in all silhouettes, winter boots, silk pajamas and makeup, too, are marked down. Here are 10—with some alternatives—that made our own list.

Barbour’s quilted trench with classic epaulets is already sold out in most sizes, but the label’s khaki-colored, tartan-lined water-resistant trench is also reduced—from $420 to $299. And, the price of a double-face wool, A-line camel coat from Proenza Schouler has recently been slashed to $897 from $2,990, a whopping 70% discount. Any of these would satisfy a requirement for a weather-ready coat for fall and into winter.

Sweaty Betty’s cropped yoga leggings in navy (above) are $118, but if you’d prefer the color of the moment (read Pink Gets Pinker this Wednesday), you can score these fancy workout pants with handy pockets in glow pink for $86.40.

Fans of Charlotte Tilbury, take note. A three-piece kit (lip liner, matte lipstick and lip gloss in the brand’s Pillow Talk hue (a nude pink) is reduced to $62 from its $92 value.

It’s too hot for them now, but come cooler weather, you’ll pat yourself on the back for buying these Blondo waterproof tall boots with a pointy toe and streamlined silhouette. Made from suede, they’re available in black or brown and have a side-zip for easy on and off. They’re $149.99 now; after the sale, the price goes up to $229.95.

Sold exclusively at Nordstrom’s, Wit & Wisdom’s “Ab” solution straight-leg jeans in a cotton and rayon blend with 2% Spandex are designed to comfortably mold and hold. They’re regularly $79, but during the sale they sell for $49.99.

Paul Green shoes are not only stunning looking, they’re comfortable and made to last. A pleated strap adds interest to the vamp of this soft suede Sadie loafer grounded on a springy, lightweight sole.They’re $299 now, $429, post sale.

Over the years, I’ve owned at least two of Natori’s Feathers underwire T-shirt bras. The contoured cups with molded mesh provide shape and support while elastic-edged, stretch-lace sides hug the body without digging in. At $47.90 instead of $72, I’ll click on the buy button as soon as possible.

I like pjs that can double as lounge wear so that if I’m still wearing them mid-morning or at 6pm in the evening, I still feel somewhat dressed. These washable silk pajamas (they also come in white and cloud blue) from Lunya just might fill that niche. Moreover, the slightly cropped top pairs nicely with the high-waist pants that, get this, have grippers along the waistband so they stay in place. They’re selling for $208.99 now.

Lightweight fabric, side slits and pockets on this flowy, pleated dress from Vince make it a good choice to slip into your suitcase before jetting off to faraway realms. Cinch in the drawstring to create a more defined waist or loosen it for more casual looks. Dress up with slinky sandals and jewelry; dress down with, say, Birkenstocks. It’s $269.99 until August 6 when the price goes up to $425.

A refreshing change from Longchamps’ Pliage line, this small, structured leather crossbody bag with flat bottom (6 1/2 inches wide-by-5 1/2 inches high-by-3 inches deep) in Barbie pink will accommodate a cell phone; an interior pocket can store credit cards and cash. During the sale it’s 40% off —$375—its post-sale price of $595.

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Clockwise, from left to right: An oversized, crisp button-up in French blue with a curved hem sells for $99 at Cos. Red patent Mary Janes from ballet-shoe company Maison Repetto are $480. Sandy Liang’s update-for-adults on a schoolgirl sailor dress is $480 from Shopbop. Apercu’s Le Carre sunnies ($159) in this gorgeous shade of marine blue will add instant glam to your wardrobe. Fill Clare V.’s striped azure bleu and blanc mesh tote with beach towels, sunscreen and water, while you use the matching clutch to keep your keys and wallet under wraps. The duo sells for $235.

By Janet Kelly

THE FRENCH have recently had their share of tsuris (that’s Yiddish for trouble; the “t” is silent). However, in observance of Bastille Day this Friday, we’re giving a celebratory shoutout to le bleu, blanc et rouge. See our picks above and below for how we’re wearing La Belle France’s signature colors.

Another fetching French blue, Tory Burch’s Simone cardigan ($398) is a wardrobe workhorse. Knit from a wool and silk blend (70% wool, 30% silk) with contrast ribbing, this sweater pairs delightfully with white or blue jeans and pants, as well as long, midi and short skirts and dresses.

Founded by two best friends, ba&sh clothing is the essence of French easy elegance. This embroidered, loose-fitting, 3/4-sleeve blouse with a feminine teardrop neckline sells for $375. Think Jane Birkin in the ’70s.

Inspired by vintage mechanic uniforms, this zipper-front utility jacket ($198) from Buck Mason is made from cotton twill with a bit of stretch. Tabs at the back are adjustable for a more fitted waist and blouson effect. We bet Ines de la Fressange would wear it with these matching pants.

Handmade in Saint Tropez, K. Jacques sandals come in a slew of  styles, in addition to this fisherman, a look that has been very popular this season, perhaps because its closed toe and multitude of straps ensure it’s fit for the pavement as well as the shore. It’s on sale for $216 from Farfetch, but sizes and inventory are limited. Here’s something similar from Anthropologie.

Even though it’s anything but what I’d call a basic white sweater, Vince’s geometric crochet cardigan could work with just about any item in my wardrobe—coordinating white pants, jeans, a straight or pleated skirt. Wear it over a sleeveless top, a linen T-shirt or a body suit. It’s made of a cotton and nylon blend and sits right at the hips. It’s $495 at Shopbop.

French women know that you can go without much makeup as long you’re wearing a red lipstick. We love the vivid red-blue of MAC’s Ruby Woo, which comes in a lipglass that you can wear on its own or over lip pencil or lipstick. It sells for $23 at Ulta and is also available in a matte.

From Australian designer Suzie Kondi comes this cute gauze summery shirt dress with a ’50s vibe. Slightly fitted at the bust and waist with a flirty kick at the hem, it’s wearable day or night. Just change the footwear from white Vans to strappy sandals. It sells for $395 at Net a Porter.

As much as I love a traditional blue-and-white-striped marinière, Alex Mill’s beachside tee (reduced from $89 to $59) looks fresh to my eye. In breathable jersey, the fit is relaxed with a slight drop shoulder. Pair with linen shorts for a stroll on the beach or under a jumpsuit in the evening.

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For stylish dipping: Lisa Marie Fernandez’s seersucker one-piece, a bandeau suit in denim from Karla Colletto and YouSwim’s stretchy two-piece.

By Janet Kelly

FEAR OF public speaking, heights, death? Ha! Often cited as three of our greatest phobias by I-don’t-know-whom, they don’t hold a candle to the terror of trying on a bathing suit under fluorescent lights in front of a full-length mirror. Feeling so exposed, there’s no better opportunity for self-critiquing, a process women excel at, as LittleBird Nancy eloquently explains.

Guilty as charged. When the one bathing suit I would dare put on started to wear around the neckline and I eventually had to toss it, my lame excuse for not going swimming became that I had no swimsuit, not that I dreaded going to a store to try one on. I’m not alone. Even my good-looking daughter-in-law avoids the public pool at her private club.

All joking (kind of) aside, there’s some good news in a sea of new bathing suits. Itsy, bitsy, teenie, weenie polka dot bikinis don’t flatter anyone except rail-thin, skinny-legged pre-pubescent 11-year-old girls, but there are plenty of other choices. Brands like Hunza G and Summersalt have woken up to size inclusivity with tech-smart fabrics. Miraclesuit and Paula Beachwear aim to whittle waists and smooth out tummies. And many of these labels keep the environment in their sights by using recycled materials.

Yes, we’re still a long way from self-acceptance, but knowing there are options to stoke our self-confidence, well, that’s something.

Below, swimsuits for every figure.

YouSwim’s ribbed, seamless Aplomb High-Waist Two Piece accommodates seven sizes from US 2 to 14 in size Stretch I, as well as fits busts from cups A to G. In size Stretch II, it extends to US size 24. The suit will stretch in all directions to complement big busts, no butts, and the in-betweens. In addition to adapting to your curves, the Aplomb, which sells for $139, is available in 16 colors, including this bright yellow.

Even if you’re not a strapless suit kind of girl, this denim-look swimsuit with a keyhole bowtie from diva swimwear designer Karla Colletto might just convince you. It sells for $295 at Mytheresa.

Summersalt gets good marks for its best-selling Sidestroke, which flatters figures with bust support (without padding), offers full butt coverage and fabric that compresses those wiggly body parts into place. Its one-shoulder style comes in 14 different stripe combinations for $95.

If you like the look of a wetsuit, consider Boden’s Neoprene Swimsuit with a sleek, streamlined silhouette that offers maximum sun protection. And, it’s reduced from $130 to $91.

With a built-in bra, removable pads and wide straps, Everlane’s V-neck one piece is an easy-fitting suit. Moreover, it’s fully lined, dries quickly and is fade-resistant. The company says this style was “fit-tested on 112 different women to ensure it feels comfortable, looks flattering, and stays put—no matter how you move.” Did we mention it’s on final sale for $28?

Heads-up, gingham lovers. How cute is this Lilly Pulitzer preppy piece? In addition to the cheery pattern, soft, molded cups lift busts, shirred details cinch in the waist, and removable straps give the option to go strapless. It’s $158 at Zappos.

This svelte swimsuit with Totême’s monogram pattern is made from a four-way stretch, recycled polyamide fabric. A classic silhouette with a deep U-back and high-cut legs, it sells for $190 at Saks Fifth Avenue.

In seamless seersucker, Hunza G’s Nadine Bikini stretches to fit most sizes. It’s currently sold out in this metallic denim, but available in a chocolate brown for $225 at Net-a-Porter.

I always admire how good my friend Diana looks in what I’m sure is a Miraclesuit. The aptly named Illusionists Palma Swimsuit virtually whittles the middle and hips with its shirred, wrapped waistline. Mesh detailing just above the bust and at the waist lightens the look and adds a sexy peek-a-boo effect. A combination of Lycra and Spandex makes the material long-lasting and the look exceptionally slimming. It’s $176 at Bloomingdale’s.

Last summer Lise Marie Fernandez was making her suits out of terry cloth; this season seersucker is her fabric of choice for this glam, Marilyn Monroe-inspired tomato red-hot suit. It’s on sale for $297, down from $495, at Moda Operandi.

This was the bathing suit—mine was in black and white—that I kept long past its sell-by date. Ample rear-end coverage, a bra lining, and wide shoulder straps for support, plus Paula Beachwear’s signature stretchy fabric for tummy, etc. control won my thumbs-up. This “swordfish” style from the Stockholm-based label comes in 15 other colors. It’s $200.

When she’s is not sifting through artifacts from an archaeological dig, my Italian pal Paola spends a lot of time swimming in the Mediterranean, a short stroll from her apartment in Santa Margherita. That’s her justification for her collection of Eres bathing suits, such as this Asia Tank swimsuit, which is $430 at Farfetch.

Beat the summer heat with breezy dresses. From left to right, Zara’s medallion midi, a sunny yellow from Frances Valentine and a halter top  from Massimo Dutti.

By Janet Kelly

THE HEAT is on, and if it’s not, it soon will be, along with its buddy, high humidity. In the sizzle of summer (which, BTW, begins today), tight-fitting is a dirty word. Our solution: unstructured, fluid and flowy—dresses. Our picks below:

A slightly dropped waist, tiered skirt, a slit in the round neckline and the embroidered pattern are the details that make this cotton, ankle-length dress from Zara a fresh summer design at a wallet-pleasing price of $69.90.

Thumbs up for the unexpectedly delightful shibori print on this halter top, tiered midi from Madewell. The fitted, smocked bodice gives way to a relaxed, breeze-encouraging skirt. Dress it down with sneakers, up with scrappy sandals. Limited sizes are still available at Nordstrom, where it’s selling for $118.

Love linen but can’t abide the wrinkles? That’s the upside of a linen blend like Massimo Dutti’s mid-length dress ($169) with a criss-cross back. A deep v-neckline and a flared silhouette welcome all the available, cooling air.

Known for its whimsical patterns on sleepwear, Print Fresh has moved into making flowy, lightweight skirts and dresses. Inspired by plants and animals, the boldly colored prints are hand screened or embroidered on all-cotton fabrics by the company’s artisan partners in India. The It’s a Date Dress has pockets and a coordinating belt to cinch in your waist or remove for a more relaxed feel. Also available in lime and clover green, it sells for $188 (use code SUMMERFRIDAY for a 20% discount).

J. McLaughlin’s silk-cotton shirt dress ($298) marries the traditional silhouette with a swooshy abstract print. It comes with a matching self-tie belt, but we’d opt instead for a more casual braided belt, as shown above.

A 2012 Parsons School of Design graduate, Nikki Chasin combines the feminine with the unfussy for her namesake label. A playful zig-zag appliqué frames the gathered yoke and puff sleeves on this ivory, mid-length henley dress ($388) just perfect for twirling around in.

More billowy than structured, Ciao Lucia’s Gallo dress with its charming sand dollar print is made from airy cotton, has side slits for air flow and pockets for stashing stuff. It sells for $425 at Goop.

There’s not much to this Montana linen dress from Velvet, but that’s part of its appeal. An update on the classic kaftan—with a slimmer silhouette. Lean into the wrinkles. A blank canvas makes it easy to accessorize for day or night. It sells for $238.

Although maxi dresses are a huge trend, I have not bought into them because I think the length would drag me down. If I were to buy one, though, Ulla Johnson’s Stella Dress ($790) would top my list. The cotton eyelet fabric with large perforations and floral appliqués make it look free and floaty, which is how I’d like to feel on a hot and humid summer day.

Elyce Arons, co-founder of Frances Valentine with the late Kate Spade, has stayed true to Spade’s retro aesthetic and lighthearted, colorful approach to fashion as in this sunny midi with rosette appliqués and a flowy, full skirt. It sells for $598.

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Make a guy’s day with, clockwise, from left to right: a colorful pickle ball paddle, a tumbler that will hold 20 ounces of his liquid of choice, a tangy, smoky barbecue sauce, a grill pan for veggies and a boost of caffeine from New Orleans’ Café Du Monde. 

By Janet Kelly

TO THE companies that have sent me e-mails asking if I’d prefer not to receive their Father’s Day–related gift suggestions because of any sensitivity on the subject, here’s my reply-all message: Stop! We grown-up girls can handle it. My contemporaries and I may no longer have fathers, but we do have men in our lives—sons, sons-in-law, grandsons, brothers, husbands, boyfriends, friends—whom we’d like to celebrate. To that end, see my suggestions below. (If not noted, expect delivery in time for Father’s Day.)

First published in 1974, the new edition of this guide ($14.99) to the mental side of the game by sports psychologist Gallwey offers tips on how to overcome nerves and self-doubt, concentrate and improve skills with smart practice. The ideas apply to athletes in general but also to anyone who wants to step up their performance in any activity. Check local bookstores for copies or order now from Amazon Prime for delivery this Friday.

For the guy in your crowd who’s a mosquito magnet, the Bug Bite Thing  ($9.95) works on bites from menacing mosquitoes,  no-see-ums and chiggers—and bee and wasp stings by removing insect venom with suction. A handy-dandy weapon that’s compact, lightweight and easy to carry.

Grandpa will love watching the rotating display of photos that can be uploaded from a smart phone to Aura’s Carver, WiFi-connected picture frame with a 10.1-inch landscape display. Although he might need help from the younger generation on using the free Aura app, he’ll be able to add unlimited photos and videos to fill the frame. Screen brightness and photo cropping are adjustable. The frame, which turns off automatically at night, sells for $149. Delivery expected within three business days.

For your favorite barbecue meister, head to the grocery store to create a basket of goodies for the grill. Don’t forget to include Stubb’s Original Bar-B-Q sauce, a tangy tomato, vinegar, molasses and black pepper concoction made from scratch by Christopher B. Stubblefield, who learned to cook while serving in the 96th Field Artillery, the US Army’s last all-black army infantry, in the Korean War. After managing two barbecue-based restaurants in Texas, “Stubb” began bottling his sauces and selling them to grocery stores in the 1990s. The company was sold to McCormick in 2015. An 18-ounce bottle is $6.99.

Speaking of grilling, All-Clad’s 11-inch square stainless-steel basket with its large perforations for circulating heat is ideal for cooking vegetables and adding smoky flavor to food. Large handles make it easy to move and carry. Reduced from $105 to $79.95 at Williams-Sonoma, delivery is not expected until late June. A less expensive option is Weber’s 30-inch Deluxe Grilling Basket (13.8 x 11.8 x 2.5 inches), which sells for $30.99 and should arrive in time.

My own special guy loves popcorn. I’ve heard good things about Amish Country Popcorn, so I plan to treat him with the company’s Baby White kernels. I won’t tell him it’s gluten-free, vegan and has no preservatives. A two-pound bag sells for $9.99 and may be popped in a saucepan on the stove or in a freestanding popcorn machine.

Replace his old plastic digital alarm clock with a minimalist design (6 inches wide and 3 inches high) that not only tells time and date, works as an alarm with LED lights, and has an adjustable brightness display, but also announces the day’s temperature and humidity level. Available in bamboo, brown, black, and white, it sells for $23.99.

Satisfy the caffeine cravings of your favorite cousin who loves a strong, French roast coffee. Make his mornings better with New Orleans’ best from Café Du Monde. Sold by Amazon and made from a blend of 100% Arabica beans, three 13-ounce cans sell for $39.78. Sorry, no beignets included.

If he keeps talking about taking up pickle ball, surprise him with Nettie’s Ashbury paddle ($79.99). Named after the Haight-Ashbury neighborhood in San Francisco with its big bay windows and colorful streets, it’s lightweight (7½ ounces) and durable, has a cushioned grip to limit stress on hands and elbows, and a fiberglass face that helps with ball control. A two-pack set with two paddles, two balls and two sweatbands sells for $149.99.

With this portable rocking chair that folds flat for storage, fathers and sons can comfortably cheer on their soccer-playing granddaughters and daughters. Constructed from powder-coated steel, this foldable chair can handle up to 250 pounds and includes padded armrests, a mesh backrest, and beverage holder. It comes in gray, black and two shades of royal blue for $75.

“What’s a packraft?” I cluelessly asked my husband’s adventure-loving cousins at a family gathering. Duh—it’s a raft that can fold up small enough to fit in a backpack, such as Alpacka’s 3.6-pound Scout. It’s just the watercraft for summer trips to the local lake or for floats on a nearby river. According to the company website, it can be shipped in one to two business days. It sells for a splurge-y $775.

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By Grace Cooper

Suggested listening while reading: Shop Around by The Miracles

DATING LATER in life is full of choices and decisions. Do I like this person? Are we compatible on all the levels that are meaningful to each of us? Do I see myself wanting to label this relationship as exclusive, or even to marry this person? Late-life relationships are special in that you finally have the personal freedom to be casual companions, soul mates or anything in between. The script you once followed earlier in life—marriage, then the baby carriage—is in the rear view mirror once kids are grown and launched into lives of their own . . . or is it? 

Consider this shocking statistic: The single greatest predictor that a remarriage will fail is the presence of children from a previous marriage or relationship. Children have very little say in whether their parents remarry and form new families, but they have tremendous power to break it up. It’s common for younger children to create friction and express hostility towards the new spouse, presumably out of a sense of loyalty to the displaced parent. But guess what? Adult children are just as culpable, acting out post-divorce hostilities just as younger kids often do.

British researcher Sarah Corrie found that adult stepchildren face the very same feelings that younger ones do. These include not liking to see the parent and stepparent be affectionate with one another, feeling in a loyalty bind (“If I like stepmom, I’m betraying mom”), feeling competitive with the stepparent, and feeling pressured to have a relationship with him or her. Adult stepchildren can be very unreconciled to a parent’s divorce, hostile to the idea of getting a stepparent, and resentful of the step parent him or herself. As the kids get older, issues like estate planning and inheritance can come into play, adding an extra layer of anxiety and resentment.

Stepmothers fare worse than stepfathers. Longitudinal studies of stepfamily life by psychologists James Bray and Mavis Hetherington and sociologist Constance Ahrons show that:

Kids of all ages resent getting a stepmother more than getting a stepfather and that they resent her for longer. In Hetherington’s study, less than 20% of adult stepchildren said they felt close to their stepmothers. And while more than half of adult stepkids told Ahrons they were happy about mom remarrying, less than 30% were happy that daddy had.

And according to a study cited in the book Stepmonster, you don’t have to be a “homewrecker” to be resented: Regardless of how the previous union ended, a stepmother is likely to be the lightning rod for his kids’ unhappiness and anger that their parents broke up.

Statistically the first two years after which a couple marry are the roughest, as children of all ages adjust to the new reality. The fear of parental estrangement is real, and any lingering post-divorce parental guilt adds fuel to the smoldering resentment many children feel years after their parents divorce. However, life goes on, and with any luck divorcés will find new love. But those sparkly new couples who hope to make it to the finish line need to reassure their children they still love them and can’t force them to love a new partner. But for heaven’s sake, refuse to stand idly by if your kids treat your beloved like furniture. 

When my ex-husband remarried after our split, I’m proud to say my own children supported him and their new stepmother. (She’s lovely and he doesn’t deserve her, but that’s another story . . .  .)

As I began to date again, they treated each man I introduced to them with respect and kindness. However, that has not been my experience with the adult children of men I’ve dated. Let’s just say the distinctly chilly reception I’ve experienced on several occasions put the kibosh on any such romantic notions on my part. I’d rather stay free and single than endure hostility from any adult child who can’t appreciate the happiness I bring to his father. I’ll never ask any beau to choose between his child and me, but unless he chooses to prioritize his relationship with me, why in the world would I want to hitch my wagon to his? Dinner and a movie is one thing. Signing up to be the target of undeserved hostility is quite another. 

My advice would be to look out for your own happiness always and model healthy behaviors for your children at any age. I think we parents who once made bad choices in mates can still be good role models for our adult children. Change is inevitable, and the courage to change is admirable. Painful mistakes are simply the motivation to learn that important life lesson. 

But just in case that message falls flat, consider this—who wants to leave the next big late-life decision up to adult kids still angry with their parents for splitting up? This quote from comedian Steven Wright gives me chills . . .

“Be nice to your children. After all, they are going to choose your nursing home.”

With that as motivation, my new beau and I are working out a contingency plan to avoid leaving our future home and health care up to our kids—we are calling it the “Not Dead Yet” (NDY) community. It’s a proactive plan to create a healthy, happy, social and independent community for this last phase of life. I’ll tell you more in my next installment of Late Dates.

—Grace Cooper (a nom de plume) left her long marriage more than a decade ago, and with it went all sense of her identity—but not for long. Now 68, she has begun chronicling her tales of looking for love in all the wrong places, and unexpectedly finding herself.